tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81280610440698066492024-03-13T21:39:07.378-06:00Sundry Random ThoughtsBecause we all need a place to dump thoughts into cyberspace, and what's the harm of me having one more blog?Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.comBlogger171125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-73672775806126558422013-04-01T08:14:00.000-06:002013-04-01T08:14:02.648-06:00Google Has Not Lost All Its Coolnessgoogle.com/nose<br />
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gmail.com/blueSundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-61490884754574065692013-03-19T14:37:00.000-06:002013-03-19T14:37:00.186-06:00Awesome Communication Skills Article That I Don't Want to Forget Check out the original <a href="http://www.everydaymormonwriter.com/contest/" target="_blank">here</a>.<br />
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<strong><span style="font-size: large;">Communication 101</span></strong></div>
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<strong>1. Listen:</strong> Some research suggests that the average person listens
to another person for about 3 seconds before they are already thinking
about what they are going to say next. A lot can be missed if we aren't
truly listening beyond 3 seconds. The number one goal in a conversation
should be for each person to feel understood, not for both participants
to see things the same way, or for their to be a competition in which
one person walks away a winner. Listening is far more than the absence
of talking. Listening should be active. This includes eye contact,
nodding, small verbal signals such as "Mm-Hm" or "right", as well as
check-ins. The point of a check in is for the listener to check back
with the communicator to make sure they are understanding. This may
sound something like this: "So if I am hearing you correctly, you feel
like no one is understanding you and this makes you feel sad and alone."
This gives the communicator the opportunity to correct anything that
was miscommunicated or misinterpreted before changing talk turns. Make
sure the talker has gotten their entire message out before you begin
talking. Do not interrupt. <br />
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<b>2. </b><b>Most of what you say is not with your mouth:</b> Some
research suggests that up to 93% of what you communicate to others is
through your nonverbal cues or body language. Your body will show people
what you feel and think even if you do not intend it to. Be aware of
the nonverbal messages you are sending in a conversation or argument. If
you are not maintaining eye contact, it is likely that your friend or
partner may suspect disinterest on your part. If your body is tense and
you are making quick movements, someone may detect frustration or
irritability. Low energy and a slumpy posture may indicate sadness. Our
brains are wired to detect and send these nonverbal cues. This leads me
to my next point.<br />
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<b>3. </b><b>Be honest:</b> Because our nonverbal cues are so powerful
and so truthful, let your words be consistent with your body language.
People know when you are lying. We have all done this, when something is
clearly wrong, yet when someone asks we say, "nothing is wrong." Lies
lies lies! We aren't fooling anyone. It is better that you share your
honest feelings than to say you feel one way while your body is clearly
saying something different. Many people say things like, "nothing is
wrong" when something really is, because they are angry that the person
asking doesn't already know. This is nonsense. You cannot expect other
people to read your mind. The fact that someone is asking you means they
can see you are upset, and they are concerned in your well-being and
trying to right a wrong or help you feel better. Be open in sharing your
needs and feelings and send consistent messages.<br />
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<b>4. </b><b>Speak from the "I" position:</b> When we are trying to
resolve an issue with another person, we get in a lot of trouble by
talked about their behaviors, thoughts, and feelings, rather than our
own.This sets up a conversation for defensiveness. The problem with
talking about another person's behaviors and feelings is that we are
usually complaining about what we don't want or pretending to be the
expert about the other person. It is much more productive to communicate
about your own situation. Here is an example of a comment that may
trigger defensiveness: "When you went to Karen's house you weren't even
thinking about me and you and her were being very rude by not including
me." Speaking from the "I" position would sound something like this: "I
feel hurt and somewhat lonely when I am not a part of the group. I am
not sure what your experience is, but in this situation I felt lonely
and hurt." You can see as you read these that the second statement
elicits a much softer response. The first statement will likely start
and argument because you are telling your friend that you know A,B,C,
and D about her because you are in her brain. Yikes! With the second
statement, it is hard to argue with you, because you are sharing honest
feelings about yourself. Your friend is likely to feel sad for you and
share how she was unaware you felt that way. Speaking from the "I"
position can uncover people's true intentions, which are usually good. <br />
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<b>5. Take a time-out if necessary:</b> If at any point in the
conversation things get out of hand, it is okay to take a time out. If
anyone is being verbally abusive or someone is feelings unsafe,
defensiveness is high and constructive problem solving isn't happening,
it is okay to take a break. A time-out should be initiated with a
commitment of when you will get back together to resolve the issue. This
way, a time-out is not used as a way to disengage and avoid conflict
and hard emotions all together (this is an unhealthy form of conflict
resolution just as fighting is). A time-out should be used to take a
deep breath (literally), slow down your physiology, organize your
thoughts, and recommit to steps 1-4. a time-out should not be used to
build your argument or to think negatively about the person and let
negative feelings fester.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-40750166873912254612013-03-18T08:14:00.000-06:002013-03-18T08:14:03.629-06:00Seeking Joy<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-10457076673387752702013-02-27T11:59:00.000-07:002013-02-27T11:59:00.041-07:00Thanks for the Journey<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-60135832490128640322013-02-26T11:44:00.000-07:002013-02-26T11:44:00.028-07:00Going Soft in UtahI have been freezing for the past three days--like around the clock--and it's over ten degrees, unlike it was at the beginning of January!Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-89673306060178759612013-02-25T11:47:00.001-07:002013-02-25T11:47:35.410-07:00Be You"Be average! Be you! Be unique! Leave the house without make-up. Let your
gut hang over your pants with out sucking in or holding something in
front of your stomach. Don't clean your dirty house before people come
over. Laugh about mistakes you make. Don't talk about body image in
front of other women or your daughters! If we let our guard down, we
make other women comfortable to do the same. When we focus so hard on
our body, we end up neglecting what is inside of it. Let's fight it
ladies! We are strong and worthy of much more." - <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/WomensServicesAndResourcesBlog/~3/5SB_PGr6r58/no-no-bad-media-bad.html" target="_blank">from here</a>Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-4343484878943589462013-02-25T11:43:00.002-07:002013-02-25T11:43:30.489-07:00Scones: Baked, not FriedI don't like them. What's the point of a sweet, dry biscuit? I ask you.<br />
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Then again, maybe when I think of "scones" I'm really thinking of <a href="http://joythebaker.com/2013/02/buttermilk-beignets/">beignets</a>. This might just call for some culinary investigation...Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-72701387972663756292013-02-23T10:00:00.000-07:002013-02-23T10:00:04.221-07:00Definitely One of the Best<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-72242995045337480752013-02-22T09:58:00.000-07:002013-02-22T09:58:00.539-07:00More Wisdom<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-68404959691782466362013-02-21T09:58:00.003-07:002013-02-21T09:58:33.484-07:00Quotes Might Be the Theme For A While<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-64400869081685420932013-02-09T12:20:00.000-07:002013-02-09T12:20:00.873-07:00DebilitationThere has to be a reason why God made it so women in the prime of life function way under par at least 20% of the time. I guess I have the next quarter of my life to try to figure out why.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-36361810354434057912013-02-08T12:18:00.000-07:002013-02-08T12:18:08.903-07:00Simple AnalysisIf no one is selling it used on Amazon, it's probably a really good product.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-52899702227649404802013-02-06T14:56:00.003-07:002013-02-06T14:56:45.359-07:00To Live By<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-80610859383959751912013-01-15T13:52:00.002-07:002013-01-15T13:52:39.515-07:00Hollywood Look-alike<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The other day a random girl said I look like "Jenny" (played by Jessica Raine) from "Call the Midwife." I'm very okay with that. :)Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-6020150186982360132013-01-10T16:28:00.000-07:002013-01-10T16:28:07.504-07:00HousewifeRidiculous or not, I feel very very productive when I'm wearing my cute apron.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-53637751572391645042012-10-15T16:19:00.000-06:002012-10-15T16:19:51.829-06:00What I've Been LearningNo matter how different you think you are, you can't help but deeply love each person you truly learn to know.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-22823013394496757252012-03-09T19:43:00.001-07:002012-03-09T19:44:21.603-07:00Microdermabrasion:Pretty much the worst thing I have ever done in my life. Ouch. Pain. Very sad.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-49355827697171763542012-03-07T09:15:00.001-07:002012-03-07T09:15:00.229-07:00Realization (Duh.)Having a baby is waaaaay better than being pregnant.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-17898825027676595422012-03-06T09:14:00.001-07:002012-03-06T09:14:01.051-07:00What I Should Put On Our Family Answering Machine"Hello, this is Tantrum Central. How may I help you?"<br /><br />And I thought we had hit "terrible twos" already. Geez.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-55417474948225780342012-03-05T09:11:00.002-07:002012-03-05T09:11:00.184-07:00RegretsI never should have looked up our <a href="http://sundryrandomthoughts.blogspot.com/2012/01/happy-new-year.html">Chinese zodiac </a>signs. I keep thinking about Mama Tiger vs. little Ox when we have fights like eight times a day.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-40763033817351278262012-03-04T09:10:00.001-07:002012-03-04T09:10:00.703-07:00Lucky WeekI won another giveaway! Statistics really work!Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-88934682079157347972012-03-03T09:09:00.003-07:002012-03-03T09:10:24.026-07:00Lion and LambThursday, March 1<br /><br />I left the house at 6:30 and it was snowing just a little.<br />I left the gym at 7:45 and it was cold but the sky was completely blue.<br />I left the house at 9:00 and it was completely clouded over and dumping snow.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-67075184534197933382012-02-28T10:36:00.001-07:002012-02-28T10:37:45.788-07:00Winner, Winner!I just won a blog giveaway for the first time. This is all I've ever wanted! I'm going to keep trying for for that Pioneer Woman KitchenAid though!Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-54147299321574170732012-01-25T12:56:00.005-07:002012-01-25T12:58:02.995-07:00I Just Can't WinI bought pants a little too big instead of a little too small thinking they would shrink (and because all my other pants being too small is why I went shopping in the first place). Instead they stretched. Argh.Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8128061044069806649.post-5066500679835382932012-01-25T12:56:00.002-07:002012-01-25T12:56:48.025-07:00Support Moms with StrollersClear the snow from your sidewalk!Sundry Randomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13397670546061993342noreply@blogger.com0